Advice re significant others disapproving of gambling

[goldengreeke]

I don't know if marriage is in your plans with him but if it is, the anger he has over your gambling will elevate ten fold.

Right now your relationship is in the courtship stage and he is just letting you know in subtle ways that he disapproves of your gambling but
if and when you are married, all hell will break loose!

[DK528]

I will give you a short and sweet answer. Give up gambling or give up him.

I thought you met at a casino?

Is he exhibiting any insecurity issues about your other activities (yet)?

It's sooo important you get to do things you like without some guilt trip from your partner. Resentment destroys relationships. Are you going to be able to enjoy yourself in Vegas slotting alone knowing he's scowling about it?

Ultimately Gene's answer may be what it comes down to.

I have to say that this seems a bit possessive and / or insecure to me. To which I would try to make a deal with him...like I will be in the casino from 1 to 3 today...so he knows what you will be doing.

Ultimately though it may come down to what Gene said. Good luck and I hope you guys can come up with something that works for both of you

I don't know if marriage is in your plans with him but if it is, the anger he has over your gambling will elevate ten fold.

Right now your relationship is in the courtship stage and he is just letting you know in subtle ways that he disapproves of your gambling but
if and when you are married, all hell will break loose!

Trey, we did meet at a casino - borgata! He was in AC for a bachelor party and I was there for my annual trip with my friends to see the a cappella group. I also don't know if I'll be able to enjoy my gambling time in Vegas this trip. I'll feel pressure to get it done quickly.

He's not insecure about other things I do. But he has definitely expressed disapproval about this. And when I think about if I would give up gambling to stay in the relationship, I have two conflicting thoughts:

1. I probably would resent it and him a little bit. Maybe I'm being stubborn but I can't understand why he's so bothered by it - it's my money and I'm responsible with it!

2. If this does continue and lead to marriage and kids, I probably will heavily curtail my gambling anyways bc of budget and timing issues. Combined with if I take almost any other job than the one I have at a big law firm, my salary will decrease severely. So it may be inevitable that the issue could resolve itself on its own.

Mary, I thought I did that when I said "yes I'll be gambling some every day but it'll only be an hour or two." I thought that was upfront but a concession in terms of time. But he saw it as "no matter if I'm having a good time with you, I'll have to leave you to gamble."